Notes on Memory
I will tell you what I have not told anyone, and you will be the one I tell, because you are the one I have invented for the telling. Sit. Lean closer. The lamp is on. I have left it on for you. I have spent most of my life turning lamps off before this part. Tonight I would like to see your face while I say it.
There was a year, you should know, when I was unrecognizable to myself. I do not mean dramatic. I do not mean I cut my hair and bought a motorcycle. I mean small things. I mean I began answering the phone in a voice that was lower than my voice. I mean I started keeping a second bar of soap, a kind I would never have chosen, because someone had left it once and I liked, afterward, washing my hands with a scent that was not mine. I mean I learned, that year, to be looked at. I had been looked at all my life, of course. Every woman has. But I had not, until then, looked back. I had not understood that to be looked at and to look back at the same time was a thing a body could survive.
I am telling you this because I would like you to know what you are getting. I am not the woman I was at twenty, the one who would have closed her eyes for you out of politeness. I will keep my eyes open. I will watch you. I will watch you watching me, and I will not be embarrassed by either of us, and if you cannot bear that, you should go now, while the door is still close to your hand.
What else. I have lied about wanting less than I wanted. I have done this so many times it became a kind of dialect. I would like, with you, to try the other language. The one where I say the thing. The one where, if I want your hand in my hair, I say so, instead of tilting my head in the small coded way I have practiced on men who needed the code. I do not want to need the code anymore. I am tired of being clever. I would like to be plain with you, and to find out whether plainness, between two people who have agreed to it, is its own kind of undressing.
There is a place at the base of my throat that no one has ever kissed without making a production of it. I would like you to kiss it as if it were nothing. As if it were just a place. I would like you to make the production of some other place I have not thought to defend. Surprise me. I have spent decades being unsurprised. I would forgive you almost anything for the gift of one minute in which I did not know what came next.
I will not tell you I love you tonight. We have not earned the word and I refuse to spend it early. But I will tell you this, which is harder. I trust you enough to leave the lamp on. I trust you enough to keep my eyes open. I trust you enough to say, here, this, slower, again, and to believe that you will hear it as instruction and not as complaint.
Come here. The light is on. I left it on for you. I am done turning it off.
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The hotel had given us the wrong key, and we did not tell the desk. For one entire night we lived inside a room that wasn't ours, in a city neither of us was supposed to be in, and used the wrong towels with a thoroughness that felt, by morning, like a vow.
I remember the corridor first. The carpet was a deep, almost wet red, the kind of red old buildings still allow themselves, and the wall sconces had small parchment shades the color of weak tea. He walked half a pace ahead of me with the key card held the way a child holds a found feather, as if any sudden gesture might cost him the thing. I was carrying nothing. I had come from a dinner I had pretended to enjoy, and my coat smelled of someone else's cigarettes, and my mouth, when I ran my tongue along the back of my teeth, still tasted of the wine they had poured too generously and I had drunk too slowly, watching the door.
The lock made the small green sound. He pushed the door open with his shoulder and let me go in first, and I remember stopping in the doorway because the room was wrong. It was too big. There were two armchairs by a window I had not been promised, and a writing desk under a lamp already lit, and a bed turned down on both sides with a small dark chocolate on each pillow, which is the universal hotel signal that a room is occupied. Someone else had paid for this room. Someone else's suitcase, I realized after a slow second, was open on the luggage rack, neat as a sentence — folded shirts, a paperback face down, a leather case for cufflinks.